Reconcile Honour thy father and mother with abuse

2018-10-07 16:06:30

Many who abuse their children use

Exodus 20:12

Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you. (NIV)

Deuteronomy 5:16

Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live long and that it may go well with you in the land the Lord your God is giving you. (NIV)

and Ephesians 6:2-3

2 “Honor your father and mother” — which is the first commandment with a promise —3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” (NIV)

to ensure the child is a willing participant within abuse.

How can a teenage child or adult survivor of abuse reconcile these passages with the need for future self-preservation with regard to Luke 6:31

Do to others as you would have them do to you. (NIV)

and Matthew 7:12

So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.